When poet John Davies of Hereford wrote this now famous saying in 1616, he was actually referring to a murder involving Sir Thomas Overbury.
We have taken this almost 400 year old phrase and excluded the remaining lines of the poem which include “Beauty is but skin deep, ugly lies the bone, Beauty dies and fades away, but ugly holds its own.”
Charisma too, can be skin deep. In earlier postings we discussed the danger of your Charisma not being authentic. One simple way to prove your Charisma is authentic, and not only skin deep, is to use it wisely. As a Rare Leader™ you have a powerful tool to draw attention to yourself, and to make others want to like, respect, and emulate you.
Patrick Lencioni writes in his book the Five Dysfunctions of a Team, the importance of overcoming the absence of trust. The fear of being vulnerable with your Team prevents the building of Trust within your Team. When you use authentic Charisma in a positive way, you draw people close to you. Using your heartfelt Charisma lets people see inside of you. Making your Charisma personal, opens the door to vulnerability which is the secret key to building trust.
When your Charisma is positive, uplifting, true, from the heart, and personal, it reflects your Character. In March we will explore the powerful behavior of Character in the Rare Leader™. You will begin to see how the behaviors of the Rare Leader™ work together. In our first three studied behaviors we find Character delivered through Charisma, helps others see your Vision. Effective leadership requires the interaction of many qualities and behaviors simultaneously, and interdependent upon each other. This is why we find many well intentioned people discover they can not lead. However, the Rare Leader™ learns to live by, and use all 12 behaviors together.
When you think about how to use your Charisma, you can also be guided by Ella Wheeler Wilcox (not John Joyce) who first wrote, “Laugh and the world laughs with you; Weep and you weep alone”.
Tell us…What can you do today to be Charismatic with others, and to draw them into your trust?
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